Curse

Ultimate_Gaara · Jun 02, 2007, 06:13 AM // 06:13

Oh boy do I ever dislike pickles, even on my burgers.

Now I don't want to get into too many details, because I know you don't care for the story of my life, but I sure could use some advice... seems like these days all I ever do for people I know is give advice so I think it's about time I ask for some myself.

Ok so here's the deal, a really good friend of three years of mine is about to get hurt, not physically, don't panic she's not in a bear trap. Now, even as her friend she probably won't believe a word I say, but I feel like I should still do something.

Well here are my two choices:

A) Step in, say something, risk the friendship but at least try to stop her from getting hurt.

B) Do nothing, keep the friendship, feel like a horrible friend and watch her get hurt.

Now, she is like a sister to me, so she means quite a bit, and I hate seeing her upset.

I know in the end this is a decision I have to make myself, and I have already made it. So what would you do in this dilly of a pickle? Kinda seems like one of those lame questions on a test with no right answer doesn't it.

Remember, Smokey the Bear says " Only you can prevent forest fires, don't flame on public forums."

Trakata · Jun 02, 2007, 07:46 AM // 07:46

I'd say something. That way at least I tried. If she doesn't believe me, that's her problem.

**Marty Silverblade** · Jun 02, 2007, 08:40 AM // 08:40

As a friend, it's your responsibility to stand-up for and help your friends when they need you. You must say something.

Divine Freak · Jun 02, 2007, 04:45 PM // 16:45

I'd say something. I've had to tell a couple of my good friends things they didn't want to hear before. It helped, they were pissed at me, they got over it. Hope everything works out for the best. GL.

xxSilhouette · Jun 02, 2007, 04:57 PM // 16:57

I'd say step in and tell her, Even if she does get mad at you for it, later she may appreciate that you told her.

I pwnd U · Jun 02, 2007, 05:22 PM // 17:22

Stand up and tell her how you feel and why. Don't let her get hurt, She will understand.

Aera · Jun 03, 2007, 02:17 PM // 14:17

Quote:

B) Do nothing, keep the friendship, feel like a horrible friend and watch her get hurt.

Now, she is like a sister to me, so she means quite a bit, and I hate seeing her upset.

She's that important to you, and you have even considered not telling? Tell her, whatever it is, it can't be worse than letting her get it all. If you don't say anything, she'll find out you knew and that will strike you down like Frenzy/Healsig under a catapult.

Lowlife · Jun 03, 2007, 02:40 PM // 14:40

tell her ofc
who cares she might be angry at you,
she will get over it
honesty all the way

Dralspire · Jun 03, 2007, 03:28 PM // 15:28

As you asked for it, here is my take on it:

Being a friend, my job is not to live the life of my friend for him or her. As such, I would certainly limit my interference to offering a perspective via open questions as opposed to telling a friend what to do. If a friend wants my advice, he or she will ask for it. I let my friends make their own mistakes if they are so inclined and am there to provide support when needed.

elektra_lucia · Jun 04, 2007, 12:10 PM // 12:10

You could be wrong that she is going to make a mistake/get hurt. Maybe this time you're right, but one day you'd be wrong. People don't learn if you don't let them suffer. I forget the quote exactly but if you help a bug out of a cocoon, that will be great but it will not be strong enough to survive in the real world =).

I don't get why you post here. Either she is an internet friend (which would make sense), or a real life one. If a real life one then speak to real life friends/people about it.

A big factor of this is that she's female. As she's a female and I assume you're a guy, the probability of the problem being a relationship thing and that is why she might get hurt is very high. You said she may not believe you, again clarifying my point. I could be assuming and be totally wrong (I don't care either way).

Most men don't have a clue about women. Especially people from a computer game. For you to trust someone, can you trust an insecure person? It is hard to trust an insecure person, no matter how much you try. This thread makes you look insecure and that's why you're turning to young males (for the majority) for advice. If you do tell her, she'll know you are some what insecure so with that said, it'd be hard for her to trust you?

You shouldn't dictate someone's life, especially a females. You're better off being more attractive to her, then when things go horribly wrong for her, she has someone she finds more fun in talking to. You didn't give enough information. She could get hurt because she's about to go find her long lost sister, she could get hurt because she's about to date some guy. You need to give more information really. If she is like a sister to you, well think of it like this. You don't dictate your sisters life, I hope? If you do, you're wrong to do that. Let her get hurt, she'll get stronger because of it.

Oh and if she doesn't trust what you say and you argue... She probably will do more than get angry at you.

Etta · Jun 04, 2007, 01:39 PM // 13:39

As a wiseman once sang:
"She is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
Let it be, let it be.
Let it be, let it be.
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be."

You already knew the answer, but you just can't face up to it. If anything is going to happen then it will happen. Follow your heart, do what you think is right.

Divinitys Creature · Jun 04, 2007, 11:23 PM // 23:23

Talking to someone is not dictating their life, unless you really INTERFERE. If you have something to say just say it, you can't morphologically analyse every possible way she can take it. It should be obvious if you shouldn't say something at the time you are about to say it. If she's really a friend she'll understand your reasons.

elektra_lucia · Jun 04, 2007, 11:59 PM // 23:59

If you look at the way he wrote his post, and all the definitions of dictate I think you'll find what I said was perfectly correct... Whatever though.

Sir Skullcrasher · Jun 05, 2007, 05:57 PM // 17:57

I would help her out since if she is your friend for so long, you don't want to see her get hurt!

Ultimate_Gaara · Jun 06, 2007, 10:47 PM // 22:47

Quote:

Originally Posted by elektra_lucia

You could be wrong that she is going to make a mistake/get hurt. Maybe this time you're right, but one day you'd be wrong. People don't learn if you don't let them suffer. I forget the quote exactly but if you help a bug out of a cocoon, that will be great but it will not be strong enough to survive in the real world =).

I don't get why you post here. Either she is an internet friend (which would make sense), or a real life one. If a real life one then speak to real life friends/people about it.

A big factor of this is that she's female. As she's a female and I assume you're a guy, the probability of the problem being a relationship thing and that is why she might get hurt is very high. You said she may not believe you, again clarifying my point. I could be assuming and be totally wrong (I don't care either way).

Most men don't have a clue about women. Especially people from a computer game. For you to trust someone, can you trust an insecure person? It is hard to trust an insecure person, no matter how much you try. This thread makes you look insecure and that's why you're turning to young males (for the majority) for advice. If you do tell her, she'll know you are some what insecure so with that said, it'd be hard for her to trust you?

You shouldn't dictate someone's life, especially a females. You're better off being more attractive to her, then when things go horribly wrong for her, she has someone she finds more fun in talking to. You didn't give enough information. She could get hurt because she's about to go find her long lost sister, she could get hurt because she's about to date some guy. You need to give more information really. If she is like a sister to you, well think of it like this. You don't dictate your sisters life, I hope? If you do, you're wrong to do that. Let her get hurt, she'll get stronger because of it.

Oh and if she doesn't trust what you say and you argue... She probably will do more than get angry at you.

I like how much thought you put into it very intresting. I would give more information but I don't really feel like giving out all the information since this is the internet.

She is a friend in real life, I don't make friends online, and all of my friends say " Sit back, relax, and laugh"... It's no secret all my friends hate her, and her's feel she should learn from her own ignorance.

I'm not insecure, as I said I have already made my decision, I was just curious to see what other people would do... And as far as arguing goes, I am smart enough to know never to argue with a girl, it's like getting into a boxing match with a bear.